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Orgasm Control & Your Phone Sex Mistress

This is in response to a comment from kelly on Orgasm Control that was posted on the Chastity, Tease & Denial and Milking post.Single

My girl friend is so hot and sexy when she gets close to cumming she is very vocal and moves extra sexy and then she makes me cum before she gets to cum and this is not good.
I get in REALLY big trouble.
What techniques can I learn to stop this and what can she do to make me last longer for HER. Most of the time I can hold out but I want it to be all the time I can hold it and cum when she says. Can you please help me? She is everything to me and my job is whatever she gives me and to make her cum ALWAYS. Please, please and sugar on top. thank you

Well, the way that Your Phone Sex Mistress is most familiar with in prolonging ejaculation is more of a “hands on” method that I don’t think would work too well for you during intercourse where the tip or base of the penis is ‘pinched’ right before ejaculation hence preventing ejaculation and most times retaining the erection. However, I did read this article that discussed this method as well as another method that could work for you, if you’re willing to work at it. This is “phase 1” of the second method mentioned.

Men and women have a muscle called the pubococcygeus, or PC. It’s the one men (and women, too) can use to stop peeing when the police catch them using the alley after they’ve had too much beer. When a man has an erection, he can use the same muscle to make Mr. Willy bounce up and down like a puppet show. (A jaunty, high-pitched “Hello!” adds to the effect.) To become multiply orgasmic, this muscle has to be trained. Men can literally lift weights with it by giving themselves an erection and hanging a towel over the end and trying to lift the towel.

And now something that you naughty little “tease & denial phone sex” boys will love . . . “phase 2”

Masturbation. A lot of it. But unlike those days when he was 13 and the goal was to finish as quickly as possible before his sister needed the bathroom, he should go slowly and try to reach a peak so he feels the beginnings of the trembles. Then he should stop immediately . . . When the feeling has passed, he can resume masturbating and try it again. The goal is to distinguish between the orgasm phase and the ejaculation phase which, he may be surprised to learn, are two different things. Typically, ejaculation follows orgasm by a second or two, though in the heat of battle they seem one in the same.

If you would like to read the full article check out Prolonging Pleasure

Now, this isn’t a method that I have used with anybody unless you count practicing ‘tease & denial’ working on prolonging ejaculation, so I’m not sure how well it will work, but give it a try and let me know. I’m curious to see how well it will work for you. Another recommendation would be to utilize a cock ring during intercourse. Just be careful that it isn’t so tight that it cuts of circulation. I wouldn’t recommend chastity for you because I believe that it would only exacerbate your current situation.

I have to say that you’re on the right path in wanting to do whatever you can to please your girlfriend and I’m sure that she will encourage you in this pursuit. Good luck and keep me informed about whether or not this method does in fact increase your stamina and help to prolong/prevent your ejaculation.

Mistress Violet  1-800-574-1830

Sensual Domination Phone Sex

Violet7Are you interested in Sensual Domination Phone Sex? Have you ever considered chastity and prostate milking? I’ve been asked by several submissives if I believe in and practice chastity and milking. Yes, I do believe in chastity and milking. I absolutely adore controlling a man’s cock, sexual urges, and orgasm. Men are such absolute sluts. I have adored teasing boys/men for as long as I can remember. One of my favorite ways to ‘tease’ is orally. I love to get a man to almost the point of cumming and then back it down. And that practice goes ‘hand in hand’ with chastity and milking.

For this type of Sensual Domination Phone Sex, I firmly believe that I should be in control of your orgasms and whether or not they are pleasurable or not. How I exert that control is through chastity. Now, if a submissive is obedient then a Chastity Device isn’t necessary all the time. However, during initial training, I prefer to use one. My favorites for day in, day out usage are either CB-3000 or The Curve. However, I do enjoy putting a little slut in this one, Locking Chastity Belt with Plug, when having them do “housework” or to show them off at parties, if they’ve been good. LOL

Now when it comes to Sensual Domination Phone Sex that includes milking … I prefer a “hands on” approach, however there is a very good tool that can be utilized even by the submissive himself. That tool would be The Aneros G-Spot Stimulator. The ad for this tool says that it can produce quite an intense orgasm and that is true, however, if used while in a cock-cage, like the CB-3000, well, a submissive can’t exactly get “erect” in that so, it’s more of a “pain/pleasure” sort of situation and it can be quite humiliating for a man, especially the 1st time, to cum with a flaccid penis! LOL I do enjoy that moment so very much because it prepares him for the strap-on training that I enjoy. I love getting a little slut to the point where I can fuck him in his cage until he cums!
But back to Milking … I also think that it’s only right that he consume his own cum. So, as I’d stated earlier, I prefer a more personal ritual that includes me using my fingers to anally stimulate while he holds or positions his cock into a cup or bowl so that he can then eat up his cum for me as proof of his obedience to me and to really show what an utter slut he is as well.

Chastity, milking, and tease & denial are practices that I find standard for any submissive/slave of mine. I fully expect a sub of mine not to cum without my express consent. And I do not expect him to cum in any other way then the way I direct. However, I am not cruel, hardly, I do enjoy allowing my pets enjoyable orgasms. If a sub is good and obedient, well then there is a world of possibilities available to him and of course, obeying me insures that my pets will experience intense orgasms when they’re allowed to enjoy their orgasm.

Hope that answers some of your questions, but if you have a more specific question, I welcome your comment here and I will address that specifically.

Also, a good site to look at in relation to Chastity & Milking is this site Chastity

Talk to you soon, pets!

Mistress Violet

Phone Sex Mistress

Violet22Have you been missing posts from your Phone Sex Mistress? Aw, poor babies! I’ve been here, but I just haven’t been keeping all of you posted. That’s going to change. I’m back and ready to keep you updated on a much more regular basis.

For those of you that are new and seeking a Phone Sex Mistress, please take the time to peruse my blog to see about compatibility and if you might be interested in a session. As an overview, I am quite familiar with all manner of BDSM activities and am not only experienced on the phone, but ‘real time’ as well. However, I am not currently taking new submissives for  ‘real time’ sessions, so please don’t ask. Phone sessions can be limiting with some activities for safety reasons, but a lot can be achieved with mutual cooperation and creativity.

If you’ve taken the time to look around, you know that I am interested in activities that range from sensual to hardcore. Some of my phone specialties include but are not limited to:  Guided Masturbation, Feminization, Anal or Strap On Play, Spanking, CBT, Exhibitionism, Limited Blackmail, Chastity, Cock and/or Orgasm Control, Limited Bondage, Humiliation, Crossdressing/Sissies, Tease and Denial and BDSM role play. Our sessions can be strictly fantasy or more often, a role play combined with actual activities. The content of our sessions will be determined in the beginning and I encourage you to message me on either yahoo or aim for the opportunity to have a brief chat prior to our session.

Lastly, as a Phone Sex Mistress, I ask that you approach me with respect with your requests. I am open to all new ideas and activities, within reason. As a Dominatrix, I do not tend to do your ‘standard’ phone sex calls, but I am not opposed to fantasy scenarios as long as they’re along the lines of me being in control. I have and do sessions that are not exactly ‘strict BDSM’ but I am not your standard “phone girl” and generally, I am not one that is interested in your standard ‘suck and fuck’ type of calls. So, if you’re up for it, call me, Mistress Violet!

Mistress Violet   1-800-574-1830

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