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Mistress Phone Sex and Pushing Limits

In my experience as a Phone Sex Mistress, one of the greatest gifts that a submissive gives to his/her Dominant is unwavering trust. I have heard countless stories from submissive men about that trust being abused on occasions where the sub was used way beyond their limits. Situations where they were beaten beyond sub-space or forced into situations that went beyond erotic into a scary nightmarish actuality. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in pushing limits, but I think that many Dominants can push too hard, too fast. The gift of trust is only the beginning. Nobody, submissive or otherwise, can have enough “blind trust” right from the start to be able to be completely and utterly submissive in the very first session. It takes time to build a good, trusting bond between Domme and sub. I have this sort of bond with many of my phone sex submissives as well as all of my past ‘live’ submissives.

Ms Violet 1*800*574*1830I have been K’s Phone Sex Mistress for a very long time. K is an exhibitionist & cumslut. We spent a long time building our relationship and that trust because we not only talk ‘fantasy’, but there is some ‘reality’ in there as well. A good ‘fantasy’ that we talk about is one where I take him out to a fetish club naked on a leash connected to a cock & ball harness. Once at the club, I have him perform on stage for the group in a variety of different ways. It is exciting and erotic for both of us to talk about this sort of scene and how it would play out, what I would make him do, and how all of it excites him, however, it’s not something that can actually be “done” via the phone. Another ‘fantasy’ that we talk of is where I kidnap him and his wife and make them cumsluts for a fetish party .. that was a particularly hot one .. LOL!

The reality part of our calls is a little more tricky because these are things that he is actually doing for me at my command and there has to be a certain amount of caution. There are many things to take into account when having somebody do something for you that is a long distance away from your personal physical control. The main concern for me is one of safety and legality. Something that is relatively simple and I’m sure many men have done without prompting, but could have dire consequences for him if he was “caught”, would be having him unzip his pants whilst driving to expose his cock and stroke. Now, as long as he’s got one hand on the wheel and is driving well, there is no problem, however, if he were to get pulled over by a police officer and wasn’t able to zip up quick enough, he’d be in a world of hurt. Other times in the dead, middle of the night when most people are a sleep, I’ve had him go out into his back or front yard completely naked and stroke his cock for me which excites him almost beyond reason. Once again, this is something that is only undertaken in certain circumstances where the possibility that he would be actually seen by another person is almost zero. These reality activities are the most exciting and thrilling for both of us, but they are the ones that we’ve had to slowly build on because of the potential ‘reality’ consequences if something went wrong.

I am very proud of the relationship that K and I have built. Even in the throes of excitement, he’s usually able to keep his “top head” enough so as to not lose complete control in his environment which is necessary when doing the reality assignments. It would be different if I was standing right there and in complete control of the physical environment. In a way, I feel “bad” that I cannot be there physically for him so that he can completely “let go” and have the trust that I am there and nothing bad could happen. Alas, that is not possible. Even still, we’ve worked on different activities and have built a bond and a comfort level where I am able to push his limits and he is able to do things that he would never have done by himself which has increased his level of trust as well as strengthened our D/s bond.

So, if you are looking for a Mistress into Sensual Domination Phone Sex and is able to responsibly push your limits, give me a call.

Mistress Violet

Fetish Phone Sex

06As a Dominatrix/Mistress, I have a great deal of experience with a variety of Fetish Phone Sex and sexual practices. Some of these fetishes are more “mainstream” and others are not so widely practiced. A particular “fetish” that is more “mainstream” but also has many variations is Exhibitionism.

Wikipedia defines Exhibitionism as:

Exhibitionism, known variously as flashing, apodysophilia and Lady Godiva syndrome, [1] is the psychological need and pattern of behavior to exhibit naked parts of the body to another person with a tendency toward an extravagant, usually at least partially sexually inspired behavior to captivate the attention of another in an open display of bare “private parts”  i.e., parts of the human body which would otherwise be left covered under clothing in nearly all other cultural circumstances.”

Go here for Wikipedia’s full definition of Exhibitionism.

Many deviant fetish practices are about an additional adrenaline rush or thrill. Exhibitionism is about the thrill of either possibly being seen or purposefully being seen by one or more people, usually strangers. Now, I’m not talking about exposing one’s self at a public sporting event or concert when you’re drunk and carousing. For most people, that type of “flashing” is a one time experience while under the influence, but if the experience is sexually thrilling it can lead to the desire to be seen naked masturbating or to be seen in flagrante delicto.

The “flip side” of Exhibitionism is Voyeurism. Wikipedia defines Voyeurism as:

Voyeurism is a practice in which an individual derives sexual pleasure from observing other people. Such people may be engaged in sexual acts, or be nude or in underwear, or dressed in whatever other way the “voyeur” finds appealing.”

For more on Voyeurism.

When it comes to Voyeurism there are a variety as well. For some it is as simple as looking through a “Playboy” or watching a video. Then there are those men that like to go to the strip clubs or fetish clubs to watch the action. For others, it can get more complex. For instance, a married man who would like to see his wife with other men; specifically other men that are well endowed. This type of voyeurism can lead to cuckolding where men either accept that their wife “steps out” on them or even encourages them to have extramarital affairs. Then either asks the wife to tell him about it or asks to be able to be there and watch/participate in the act. And still others that want to observe people in their most intimate moments undetected as in what’s been called “a peeping tom” which is illegal and serious invasion of privacy.

I find that when it comes to this Phone Sex Fetish, most people can be a little bit of both but tend to lean one way or the other in varying degrees. Some people want to be seen and other people prefer to watch. Sometimes it can all hinge on their self-esteem and/or confidence level and other times it’s all a matter of what turns them on.

What turns you on? Do you want to watch or do you want to be watched? I like to watch, so if you’re an exhibitionist, I’d be more than happy to be your voyeur…just give me a call!

Mistress Violet

Fetish Phone Sex

Can’t take your eyes off my sexy, shapely ass, can you? You’ve got an Ass Fetish, don’t you? Call me for some Fetish Phone Sex! I bet you get hard thinking about me stuffing your face into my ass. How humiliating! I would thoroughly enjoy some Humiliation Phone Sex!

I’ll sit on your face and force you to smell my musky asshole. I know you want to lick it but you need me to force you to lick it, don’t you?! You want it but you’re into Forced Fantasies, so you need to be pushed! I love to hear you beg and you will beg for it. I know it!

If you’re looking for an assertive woman that believes in putting you in your place, then you should call me. I am superior and you will know it immediately!


Mistress Phone Sex


Are you looking for the perfect Goddess for Mistress Phone Sex? Look no further! Mistress Violet is ‘the Mistress’ for the best in Domination and Fetish Phone Sex! Whether you’re interested in Sensual Domination activities including:  Body Worship, Guided Masturbation, and D/s Role Play or you’re interested in something a little more hardcore like:  CBT, Spanking, and Corporal Punishment, I have the talent, imagination, and knowledge to create the perfect session.

What are your BDSM interests? Do you have toys or tools to use for me on during our phone session? When you fantasize about being dominated by a powerful, assertive woman, what do you see and how does it make you feel? In order to find the perfect Mistress/submissive match, I will need your answers to these questions and perhaps a few more. Then I will tailor the perfect phone session that will please and amuse me and drive you wild.

Are you seeking? If so, the only way to know is to call Mistress Violet for the best in Domination Phone Sex!


Naughty Boys, Their Toys, & Fetish Fantasies – Phone Sex

Are you looking for something new, different in phone sex? Do you fantasize about a Dominant woman taking control and making you … fuck your ass with a dildo? stroke your cock precisely as she tells you? being teased and not allowed to cum? being humiliated for having a tiny cock? being punished with nipple clamps and spanked? having your cock and balls tortured in a variety of ways? being a slut cuckold husband while your wife is fucked by a big, black cock? forced to be feminine and be a sissy slut?
I love a variety of sensual to hardcore Domination Scenarios. I love naughty boys that want to explore their BDSM fantasies and kinky fetishes especially if they’re willing to get the toys to actually do it. I will talk you through a variety of activities. We can use role-play scenarios or it can be more instructional.
If you’re looking for some fun toys to use I would suggest a few of my favorite sites:

For BDSM Toys that include a lot of fetish equipment – Extreme Restraints
For a good pussy for Guided Masturbation – Fleshlight
For CD and sissy clothing – CrossDresser USA or Sissy Heaven

So get your toys, naughty boys!
Call Mistress Violet ~ 1-800-574-1830 , to play out all those hot BDSM and fetish phone sex fantasies!

Shaving Tips 101

I’ve had a couple of my phone sex pets ask me about shaving. So I thought that I would share with you my personal tips on how I go about shaving myself or shaving one of my pets. And I do enjoy shaving my pets. I find a pet just that much more sexy when smooth.
And I’m sure that you would enjoy my almost completely smooth nether regions, yes?

First thing that you need to realize is that your facial hair, as a man, is much different from your body hair especially in the genital area. As well as your skin texture and sensitivity. Some men have very sensitive facial skin and others do not and the same can be said of men or women when it comes to the ‘nether regions’. So, don’t think that just because you’ve never had irritation or sensitivity on your face that automatically it will be that way down below.
A fantastic website all-around for BDSM and lifestyle information Fetish Information Exchange has a 2 part article on genital shaving that would be beneficial to read over before attempting genital shaving for the very first time on your own. And I would recommend that for the 1st time that you ‘go bare’ down there that you do shaving as opposed to a depilatory or waxing even if you are a Painslut.
My personal routine consists of either shaving every other day or using a depilatory in the summer months so I don’t have to constantly be shaving. I’m going to share with you my routine for shaving because I believe that is the where you want to start and once you get used to it, you may want to try a depilatory if you plan on being bare constantly but if you’re only going bare for certain occasions you may just want to stick to shaving.
I’ve found that there are 4 key things to effective shaving and ‘after care’. First, make sure that your skin is smooth and you’ve removed any dry dead skin that might ‘snag’ or dull your razor. I recommend using a body scrub or body polisher. Personally, I adore Mary Kay products so I either use Satin Hands & Body Body Buffing Cream or Embrace Romance Sugar Scrub, but the sugar scrub is perfumed and can cause skin sensitivity in some people so I would recommend for the first time a non-scented buffing cream.
Secondly, don’t use an electric razor or a straight razor for that matter either! A good double-bladed or, better yet, triple-bladed safety razor works well. Just make sure that it’s a ‘fresh’ razor. You never want to use a razor that you think might be dull because it may shave some of the hair but it will also pull hair out and that can cause skin irritations and ingrown hairs which are uncomfortable and unsightly. Personally, I prefer and regularly use the men’s Mach 3 Vibrating Razor. As safety razors go, it’s given me the best, smoothest, and longest lasting shave to date. Just make sure to replace the blade after at least every couple of shaves depending on how much surface area you are shaving and how much hair you have down there.
Thirdly, use a good shave gel or foam. I have always preferred using one for sensitive skin no matter where I was shaving. The one that I use regularly is Skintimate for Sensitive Skin with Aloe in the green can. The smell is light and I’ve never had any sort of irritation from it and I’ve used it on myself as well as my pets.
Fourth, make sure that you do ‘after care’ which simply involves either using a non-scented body lotion or baby oil. Mary Kay has a great non-scented moisturizing body lotion with the Satin Hands & Body products or just your standard baby oil works well too. Either way, you want to put something on your skin so it doesn’t dry out and to help prevent ingrown hairs. It will also help with potential ‘itchiness’.
Now, after shaving you may experience itching, especially if you only shave once and don’t continue to shave that area on a regular daily or every-other-day basis. So, be prepared for itchiness if you choose to shave once for an occasion but don’t plan on keeping the area bare and smooth.
If you have any other questions that either the Fetish Exchange or I have not answered, leave a comment or send me an email.
I do so enjoy ‘smooth’ pets, delicious!

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