Sexy Ms. Violet

This is in response to a comment from kelly on Orgasm Control that was posted on the Chastity, Tease & Denial and Milking post.

My girl friend is so hot and sexy when she gets close to cumming she is very vocal and moves extra sexy and then she makes me cum before she gets to cum and this is not good.
I get in REALLY big trouble.
What techniques can I learn to stop this and what can she do to make me last longer for HER. Most of the time I can hold out but I want it to be all the time I can hold it and cum when she says. Can you please help me? She is everything to me and my job is whatever she gives me and to make her cum ALWAYS. Please, please and sugar on top. thank you
k

Well, the way that Your Phone Sex Mistress is most familiar with in prolonging ejaculation is more of a “hands on” method that I don’t think would work too well for you during intercourse where the tip or base of the penis is ‘pinched’ right before ejaculation hence preventing ejaculation and most times retaining the erection. However, I did read this article that discussed this method as well as another method that could work for you, if you’re willing to work at it. This is “phase 1” of the second method mentioned.

Men and women have a muscle called the pubococcygeus, or PC. It’s the one men (and women, too) can use to stop peeing when the police catch them using the alley after they’ve had too much beer. When a man has an erection, he can use the same muscle to make Mr. Willy bounce up and down like a puppet show. (A jaunty, high-pitched “Hello!” adds to the effect.) To become multiply orgasmic, this muscle has to be trained. Men can literally lift weights with it by giving themselves an erection and hanging a towel over the end and trying to lift the towel.

And now something that you naughty little “tease & denial phone sex” boys will love . . . “phase 2”

Masturbation. A lot of it. But unlike those days when he was 13 and the goal was to finish as quickly as possible before his sister needed the bathroom, he should go slowly and try to reach a peak so he feels the beginnings of the trembles. Then he should stop immediately . . . When the feeling has passed, he can resume masturbating and try it again. The goal is to distinguish between the orgasm phase and the ejaculation phase which, he may be surprised to learn, are two different things. Typically, ejaculation follows orgasm by a second or two, though in the heat of battle they seem one in the same.

If you would like to read the full article check out Prolonging Pleasure

Now, this isn’t a method that I have used with anybody unless you count practicing ‘tease & denial’ working on prolonging ejaculation, so I’m not sure how well it will work, but give it a try and let me know. I’m curious to see how well it will work for you. Another recommendation would be to utilize a cock ring during intercourse. Just be careful that it isn’t so tight that it cuts of circulation. I wouldn’t recommend chastity for you because I believe that it would only exacerbate your current situation.

I have to say that you’re on the right path in wanting to do whatever you can to please your girlfriend and I’m sure that she will encourage you in this pursuit. Good luck and keep me informed about whether or not this method does in fact increase your stamina and help to prolong/prevent your ejaculation.

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